It was inspired by this #Awesomeness:
This was all sent to me because of my blog post: Fifty Shades of Boring, which can be found here:
50 Shades of Boring (50 Shades of Grey) Original.
Monday, December 31, 2012
Fifty Shades of Takei (Fifty Shades of Grey)...
My homegirl Natasha from the blog: Forage-Life in the Food Lane, sent me this funny ass video this morning:
It was inspired by this #Awesomeness:
It was inspired by this #Awesomeness:
Saturday, December 29, 2012
Novella and Subtitles
Since my memoir, "Not Quite Black & Blue" only turned out to be about 30k words, it is technically a novella. I have also decided to give it a subtitle; so the new title is: Not Quite Black and Blue-Surviving an Abusive Relationship. The benefit to this is, as soon as they pick up the book they will know what it's about. With the title the way it was, it could be about any number of things: BDSM, School Bullying, Mortification, etc. I am also going to put a stamp on it that says, "Rated MA". I do want young people to read it but I want their parents to be aware that there is vulgar language in it as well as racial slurs. That's about all. I'm bout to go do some editing. Peace.
Thursday, December 27, 2012
Smexy Books Romance Reviews Submission
Well, I just submitted my short story, Bound for Life, to: Smexy Books Romance Reviews, for review. We'll see what happens. :) Hopefully they will take the time to read it and review it. I hope I get a good review but even more so, I hope I get an honest review, for that is the only way I will grow. Alright y'all. Peace.
UPDATE:
They have decided to not review my book.
UPDATE:
They have decided to not review my book.
kate rothwell: hero defined
kate rothwell: hero defined: Okay, I got one: Adam Parascandola is a hero. I already appreciated him when I was avoiding work and found this video. but then I found ...
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Apology Everyone...Google+ Snafu with Deleted Photos
Over the next few days, you all might experience some missing photos. This is because I deleted an album in google+ that I did not realize was connected to my blog. Apparently Picassa (which I knew was connected to Google, even though I don't know what it is) is also connected to Blogger (which didn't know). So I am going to have to wait a little bit at a time for each of my pictures to disappear and then add them back. G+ #FAIL! This is why they shouldn't link everything and expose everything! I DO not like that about mergers!
Update:
F#CK THAT! I ain't waiting! I just realize something...I might not have all of these pictures still saved. So I am going to have to go through every blog post that has pictures, resave the pictures and then add them back, today...This is going to be a pain. I'm bout to get real familiar with my Recycling Bin... SMH!
Update 2:
DONE! Finally! That only took #Forever!
Update 3:
Oh! You thought I was DONE...like Done Done...So did I...but guess what?
Update 4:
Ok. I'm actually done this time. That took me 3 hours! smh Never again.
Update 5:
Remember when I said I was done yesterday? Yeah...I wasn't. Ish is gone off of ALL of my blogs...SMH.
Update 6:
Finally. For the love of God! I am DONE.
Update:
F#CK THAT! I ain't waiting! I just realize something...I might not have all of these pictures still saved. So I am going to have to go through every blog post that has pictures, resave the pictures and then add them back, today...This is going to be a pain. I'm bout to get real familiar with my Recycling Bin... SMH!
Update 2:
DONE! Finally! That only took #Forever!
Update 3:
Oh! You thought I was DONE...like Done Done...So did I...but guess what?
Update 4:
Ok. I'm actually done this time. That took me 3 hours! smh Never again.
Update 5:
Remember when I said I was done yesterday? Yeah...I wasn't. Ish is gone off of ALL of my blogs...SMH.
Update 6:
Finally. For the love of God! I am DONE.
Vicious Scorpions and Author/Publisher Amanda Lee
This is Amanda Lee...
There are a few reasons why I added her on Google + :
UPDATE:
I didn't like the content, therefore I didn't finish them, so I have decided (due to a close friends suggestion) to not review them.
There are a few reasons why I added her on Google + :
1. She is cute as a button.
2. I LOVED her Logo for her publishing company.
3. She is an author.
4. It seems like she writes some interesting stuff...
Here is the logo for her new (?) publishing company:
Don't you just love that Logo. It's so #Official.
I don't think I am going to ever be a "Book Reviewer" (*sticking nose up in the air*), but I do like to review books every once in a while, so I am going to get her books on my Kindle tonight and in a few days I'll let you know what I think.
Here are the two books I am planning on reading:
They look Scrumptious!
XOXO
UPDATE:
I didn't like the content, therefore I didn't finish them, so I have decided (due to a close friends suggestion) to not review them.
50 Shades of Boring (50 Shades of Grey) Original
Ok. So I know I said that I was going to be re-reading the original version of 50 Shades of Grey (Master of the Universe), but damn, I was trying and it's just UNBEARABLE. I knew that it was written as a fanfiction (?) I believe is the term...Google...Yup, fanfiction...So, I knew that it was written as a fanfic but damn! Did she have to use Bella and Edward's names? I mean hahaha this might be my naivete shining through...but they don't change the names? Naw dude...I don't like Twilight and I sure don't want to read about Edward and Bella in a BDSM relationship LOL. To be honest, I think Edward is too weak for that. IF I were going to cast someone as the Dom in a fan fic about Twilight meets BDSM, it would be Jacob and Bella OR Bella would be the Dom and Edward would be the sub... OOOOOoooooh! Y'all Twilight lovers bout to start hatin! Here...have a glass of haterade. :) So anyway, as if it wasn't hard enough getting through the Original 50 Shades of Shit...there's no way I'm getting through 50 Shades of Twilight...Although, I will admit, the new title, 50 Shades of Grey, is much better than Master of the Universe.I mean COME ON BITCHES! Does this look like a DOM to you?
Fuck Outta Here! I mean he's cute, but he looks like I could kick his ass. AND, THIS is the same tard that said he was "Allergic to Vagina"! The Hell? F*ck Outta Here!
Ooooh! You know who would make a Great Dom? Eric Northman from True Blood! I am going to put a limit on myself right now, or else there will end up being 20 some pics...3 pics! That's it! Go!
Ok 4! No More! I had to put this shower pic in... 'Cot'Damn!
So anyway...that's what's going on with THAT. So, sorry folks, I won't be reading it. Peace.
Readers Want Sex JC Cassels Follow Up!
Hey! She responded to my comment! I didn't expect such a speedy reply but there you have it. I am posting the response here, (I haven't read it yet either)-
For those of you who didn't read the blog post, go read it here:
Click Here
For those of you who didn't get to read my comment to the blog post, here is what I said:
“What I am saying is that I don’t think the glorification of sex without the accompanying emotional attachment does anyone any good.”-JC Cassels
This is my M.O. when writing. Personally, I like explicit sex scenes in books (as well as movies and adult TV series), but I also appreciate, as you so eloquently expressed it, “The Art of the Innuendo”. I’ll give you two great examples of films: “Desperado” (full on sex scene, very sensual and quite appropriate to the film) and “Under the Tuscan Sun” (charming movie, tons of sexual tension, implied sex scene). I have noticed with my reading lately (and I am new to the world of erotica reading), that there are a large amount of books written with the mind set of, “How much sex can we fit in this book?” and it’s silly to be honest. (Unless of course, it is appealing to men or women who are already half way there.) Nevertheless, I feel like there is no limit to what should be written in a story. That being said, the sex should revolve around the story; not vice versa. As a side note, I noticed that you mentioned being “ashamed” of what you had written. I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material? If a part of you wanted to write it, then I think you should embrace that. I am an artist. Sometimes I paint some evil looking stuff (that even scares me), but most of the time, I am a lighthearted painter. I didn’t used to paint the evil looking things but I realized that I can’t pick and choose who I am. I am that I am. I don’t paint everything that I think, just like I don’t say everything that I think, but I also don’t deny who I am. If you are not being true to yourself and instead, you are making decisions to please either the devil or the angel, then either way you are cutting yourself short and limiting your art.
Here is JC Cassels' Response:
~ “I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material?” ~
You ask a pointed question, Lola. Thank you.
I have made it clear that I was writing graphic sex solely to please an editor and not for myself or my story.
My mother always told me not to let anyone touch me or do anything sexually that I didn’t want. I really feel that writing should be the same way. I felt violated that I was “expected” to write graphic sex, and subtly pressured and encouraged to do so.
I’m not saying that graphic sex scenes are evil. I’m saying they are not for me. I resent feeling pressured by a fickle industry to compromise my principles in exchange for writing a book that is tossed aside and forgotten as the last tremors of orgasm fade away.
There’s an old misogynist saying that there are two kinds of girls, the kind you take home to mother and the kind you to take to bed. Applying that here, I prefer to be the former, giving readers the soul-shattering love-of-your-life romance that stays in their heads and hearts years after they close the book. I prefer to be read and reread until the cover is worn and tattered, in danger of falling apart. I want my readers to sigh over my hero because he touches their hearts, not necessarily their g-spot.
Given the fact that there is absolutely zero sex in my book, graphic or otherwise, and the reviews use words like “sexy,” “thrilling,” “intricate,” and “pretty hard hot,” I believe I’ve made the right choice in sticking to my guns on this issue. In fact, more than one reader confided that one scene in particular is the hottest scene they’ve ever read. Given the fact that the participants are more or less clothed, there is no mention of slick folds, wet slits, or throbbing shafts, I think it validates my point that graphic sex isn’t necessary to appeal to an audience.
For those of you who didn't read the blog post, go read it here:
Click Here
For those of you who didn't get to read my comment to the blog post, here is what I said:
“What I am saying is that I don’t think the glorification of sex without the accompanying emotional attachment does anyone any good.”-JC Cassels
This is my M.O. when writing. Personally, I like explicit sex scenes in books (as well as movies and adult TV series), but I also appreciate, as you so eloquently expressed it, “The Art of the Innuendo”. I’ll give you two great examples of films: “Desperado” (full on sex scene, very sensual and quite appropriate to the film) and “Under the Tuscan Sun” (charming movie, tons of sexual tension, implied sex scene). I have noticed with my reading lately (and I am new to the world of erotica reading), that there are a large amount of books written with the mind set of, “How much sex can we fit in this book?” and it’s silly to be honest. (Unless of course, it is appealing to men or women who are already half way there.) Nevertheless, I feel like there is no limit to what should be written in a story. That being said, the sex should revolve around the story; not vice versa. As a side note, I noticed that you mentioned being “ashamed” of what you had written. I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material? If a part of you wanted to write it, then I think you should embrace that. I am an artist. Sometimes I paint some evil looking stuff (that even scares me), but most of the time, I am a lighthearted painter. I didn’t used to paint the evil looking things but I realized that I can’t pick and choose who I am. I am that I am. I don’t paint everything that I think, just like I don’t say everything that I think, but I also don’t deny who I am. If you are not being true to yourself and instead, you are making decisions to please either the devil or the angel, then either way you are cutting yourself short and limiting your art.
Here is JC Cassels' Response:
~ “I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material?” ~
You ask a pointed question, Lola. Thank you.
I have made it clear that I was writing graphic sex solely to please an editor and not for myself or my story.
My mother always told me not to let anyone touch me or do anything sexually that I didn’t want. I really feel that writing should be the same way. I felt violated that I was “expected” to write graphic sex, and subtly pressured and encouraged to do so.
I’m not saying that graphic sex scenes are evil. I’m saying they are not for me. I resent feeling pressured by a fickle industry to compromise my principles in exchange for writing a book that is tossed aside and forgotten as the last tremors of orgasm fade away.
There’s an old misogynist saying that there are two kinds of girls, the kind you take home to mother and the kind you to take to bed. Applying that here, I prefer to be the former, giving readers the soul-shattering love-of-your-life romance that stays in their heads and hearts years after they close the book. I prefer to be read and reread until the cover is worn and tattered, in danger of falling apart. I want my readers to sigh over my hero because he touches their hearts, not necessarily their g-spot.
Given the fact that there is absolutely zero sex in my book, graphic or otherwise, and the reviews use words like “sexy,” “thrilling,” “intricate,” and “pretty hard hot,” I believe I’ve made the right choice in sticking to my guns on this issue. In fact, more than one reader confided that one scene in particular is the hottest scene they’ve ever read. Given the fact that the participants are more or less clothed, there is no mention of slick folds, wet slits, or throbbing shafts, I think it validates my point that graphic sex isn’t necessary to appeal to an audience.
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
Readers Want SEX!- A blog share from JC Cassels
I wanted to share this blog with you all. Here's the deal...In fact, I'm not even going to say it. I'm just going to paste my comment because that sums up what I feel about the article. I think y'all should check out this article though. Tell me what you all think.
Here's a link to the article and my comment is pasted below:
Blog Post: Readers Want SEX! by JC Cassels
My Comment:
“What I am saying is that I don’t think the glorification of sex without the accompanying emotional attachment does anyone any good.”-JC Cassels
This is my M.O. when writing. Personally, I like explicit sex scenes in books (as well as movies and adult TV series), but I also appreciate, as you so eloquently expressed it, “The Art of the Innuendo”. I’ll give you two great examples of films: “Desperado” (full on sex scene, very sensual and quite appropriate to the film) and “Under the Tuscan Sun” (charming movie, tons of sexual tension, implied sex scene). I have noticed with my reading lately (and I am new to the world of erotica reading), that there are a large amount of books written with the mind set of, “How much sex can we fit in this book?” and it’s silly to be honest. (Unless of course, it is appealing to men or women who are already half way there.) Nevertheless, I feel like there is no limit to what should be written in a story. That being said, the sex should revolve around the story; not vice versa. As a side note, I noticed that you mentioned being “ashamed” of what you had written. I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material? If a part of you wanted to write it, then I think you should embrace that. I am an artist. Sometimes I paint some evil looking stuff (that even scares me), but most of the time, I am a lighthearted painter. I didn’t used to paint the evil looking things but I realized that I can’t pick and choose who I am. I am that I am. I don’t paint everything that I think, just like I don’t say everything that I think, but I also don’t deny who I am. If you are not being true to yourself and instead, you are making decisions to please either the devil or the angel, then either way you are cutting yourself short and limiting your art.
Here's a link to the article and my comment is pasted below:
Blog Post: Readers Want SEX! by JC Cassels
My Comment:
“What I am saying is that I don’t think the glorification of sex without the accompanying emotional attachment does anyone any good.”-JC Cassels
This is my M.O. when writing. Personally, I like explicit sex scenes in books (as well as movies and adult TV series), but I also appreciate, as you so eloquently expressed it, “The Art of the Innuendo”. I’ll give you two great examples of films: “Desperado” (full on sex scene, very sensual and quite appropriate to the film) and “Under the Tuscan Sun” (charming movie, tons of sexual tension, implied sex scene). I have noticed with my reading lately (and I am new to the world of erotica reading), that there are a large amount of books written with the mind set of, “How much sex can we fit in this book?” and it’s silly to be honest. (Unless of course, it is appealing to men or women who are already half way there.) Nevertheless, I feel like there is no limit to what should be written in a story. That being said, the sex should revolve around the story; not vice versa. As a side note, I noticed that you mentioned being “ashamed” of what you had written. I do wonder, did you solely write it for the purpose of people pleasing or did you have some desire to write that type of material? If a part of you wanted to write it, then I think you should embrace that. I am an artist. Sometimes I paint some evil looking stuff (that even scares me), but most of the time, I am a lighthearted painter. I didn’t used to paint the evil looking things but I realized that I can’t pick and choose who I am. I am that I am. I don’t paint everything that I think, just like I don’t say everything that I think, but I also don’t deny who I am. If you are not being true to yourself and instead, you are making decisions to please either the devil or the angel, then either way you are cutting yourself short and limiting your art.
Information Overload-SCRIBD & Upload/Download PDFs
I tell you the truth. Learning new things can be a headache. It feels like my head is about to explode. It's not even difficult...it's just a lot. Information Overload. All morning I have been learning new things. One of the most important new things that I have learned today that I'd like to share with you is making your books available for download on your websites or blogs. It's SO F*CKING EASY! Here is a link to a site that will tell you exactly how to do it.
How to Embed a PDF into Blogger
Basically you are just signing up for a file hosting site and then you upload it. I don't want to tell you everything, because I want his site to get hits. But if for some reason this link ever stops working, just let me know and I will give the details. So now, all of my short stories are available right here on my blog for you to download. :) I would like people to support my books when they can and purchase them on Amazon, that way I can fulfill my goals of becoming a full time writer, but at the same time, when it's available for free, it's more likely that more people will read it and share it. I am going to do the same thing with my Memoir, but I am also going to make it available on Amazon and also have some hard copies made. When I learn how to do that, I will be sure to let you all know. That's all for now. Here is my Scribd page if you are interested:
Lola K.'s Scribd Page
How to Embed a PDF into Blogger
Basically you are just signing up for a file hosting site and then you upload it. I don't want to tell you everything, because I want his site to get hits. But if for some reason this link ever stops working, just let me know and I will give the details. So now, all of my short stories are available right here on my blog for you to download. :) I would like people to support my books when they can and purchase them on Amazon, that way I can fulfill my goals of becoming a full time writer, but at the same time, when it's available for free, it's more likely that more people will read it and share it. I am going to do the same thing with my Memoir, but I am also going to make it available on Amazon and also have some hard copies made. When I learn how to do that, I will be sure to let you all know. That's all for now. Here is my Scribd page if you are interested:
Lola K.'s Scribd Page
Monday, December 24, 2012
M.I.A., Old Navy and Mob Wives...
Hey everybody. If you have been wondering where I've been...It's been a few things. First of all I didn't have consistent wifi for about a week. Then after that I started doing some research for our guest this week, "Pia Rizza" from Mob Wifes Chicago.That is going to be fun and interesting. I am watching the original Mob Wives right now, so that I can compare the two shows. They keep playing this silly gap commercial with Jordan Knight. No joke, they play it like 3-4 times in a row each commercial break. My bad...Old Navy hahaha...Same difference. This commercial has to be at least 1 minute long; it's ridiculous that it's so long, but it's catchy. :) Yup...I just checked...1 minute. SMH
So what's been going on with me? I've been devouring me some Mob Wives!
(Left to right: Karen, Drita, Carla, Renee)
I'm on the wall with Karen (I don't know if she's really sincere or if she is a wolf in sheep's clothing)...But so far, so good. She seems like the most sincere and level headed person on the show...but I just want to make sure it's not an act before I go giving her mad props.
I don't like Drita...she's conniving. I wanna like her, because she's pretty and she's bad ass, but she be doing some bogus ass shit! She does this really messed up stuff that's not being a good friend at all, and then she down plays it, twists it, plays dumb about it and refuses to apologize about it. She's not a good friend at all.
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UPDATE: Nope! I've decided...I'm not feeling Carla or Drita. It's all about Renee and Karen. (I'm on episode 6. We'll see what happens.) There's no way I'd EVER wear earrings if I had friends like this. Can I get an Amen?!
She wouldn't be my first pick as a friend...but then I don't think I would want to be friends with any of these women...They are mad pissy. I couldn't be friend with someone that I had to fight all of the time. I'[m surprised none of them have had a heart attack yet :) I guess all of that stress comes with the life though.
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So what do I have up for the week? (Aside from our awesome interview with Pia Rizza.) My friend, the wonderful Mr. Palmetto Star, finished reading and critiquing my book, so I have to go back through it, read it, make changes and edit it myself. That is going to be a tedious task. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE the story...but I HATE reading out loud. It makes my jaws hurt. But whenever I am proofreading (which I don't do for this blog *blush), I read everything out loud. I know I am not going to catch all of the mistakes, because even the professionals don't, but I figure I will catch the majority of them and especially the obvious ones. This is the longest story I have ever written and it's still not quite as long as I wanted it to be, but I figure once I am done, it will be damn close to what I wanted (which was 40k words). I have to make my own book cover but I don't know what I'm going to do. I have been thinking about buying a stock photo but I don't really think I want to spend that kind of money. I think I am going to have to get creative like I have with the other ones.
(These reality TV shows are so funny with their dramatic pauses and dramatic music when they're trying to emphasize something. Yes, I'm still watching Mob Wives...Research for work is So Fun!)
Anyway, that's about all for now. I am going to chill out and finish this Mob Wives so I can be ready for Pia Rizza. Hopefully my wifi will be good enough to get through this Mob Wives and move on to Chicago before Thursday night. Peace XOXO
Thursday, December 20, 2012
Saturday, December 15, 2012
WiFi Acting up
I am so sorry I haven't been blogging over the last few days. I have been wanting too but I haven't had service long enough too. I have some now but honestly, I don't know for how long. I am just making a quick post to let you all know that I am still here and still actively blogging. Talk with you soon XOXO
Thursday, December 13, 2012
Not Quite Black & Blue...First Draft
Not Quite Black & Blue. My first novel...First draft...Finished!
Wednesday, December 12, 2012
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Tuesday, December 11, 2012
Khal's, Conan's and Momoa's...Oh My! (Jason Momoa)
BUT....
Then I got a friendly reminder from an old HS friend of mine that this sexy piece of work here is ALSO the same Sexy Piece of work from...
You guessed it! Conan the Barbarian!
Can we just take a moment to admire those pecs?
What got me started on this Hawaiian God fix?
for an adult show.
Now, in my opinion, Khal Drago is the sexiest and most manly guy in the show:
Oh..Be still my heart....*Sigh* Ok...Focusing... So aside from Khal Drago's amazing size...*wink*wink...It was this: He is so charismatic, he is strong, he is a leader, he's passionate, patient, respectful, he honors his woman and will do anything for her. He is so good to her, and being with him, makes her a stronger and better person. This is what a MAN is supposed to do, improve and inspire you. Now, just so I don't seem like I'm supporting that rapey shit at the beginning, I'll be clear. I do not, in any way shape or form, agree with any form of rape aside from willing pseudo rape (violent, rough sex) between two consenting adults. Not my thing, but do you...Now obviously, this is a show and it is supposed to reflect the mentality of that type of tribe and let's face it, this stuff is still going on. Arranged marriages are happening every day. Some men will wait for you to be ready to have the sex and some won't. I hate to sound harsh with this next comment but, I'm gonna say it anyway. Daenerys wanted/agreed to this. She wanted to get her kingdom/throne back for her and her family and this was the cost. Men and women make these sort of agreements everyday. Does it change the fact that he raped her? No. But she agreed to be sold to him and knew that he was going to be taking it...that comes with the territory of marrying a king. When he wants it, he's gonna take it...Doesn't make it right, but this is a TV show, that is to some degree based on the way humans typically handle things. So now that that's out of the way...Let's get back to his awesomeness. 
Monday, December 10, 2012
Not Quite Black and Blue Memoir Update
Hey all. I have just finished my last, extra long chapter. There are only 4 more short chapters left and then I will do a read through-making all necessary addenda-and then I will be done with the first draft. I am so excited to have accomplished this feat. It's been about 6 months in the making and I have gong through a lot of emotional ups and downs putting it all together. I am only about 2,000 words away from being at 30,000 words, I'm sure that will happen. I figure after 2 or 3 people critique it and I do my addenda (I just learned that word, along with synopses), I will be somewhere between 35k and 40k words; that's just what I need to have it be considered a "novel" (well, technically, it's 45k-50k, but 35k-40k was my goal; that's close enough). If I don't get there, it really won't matter, I am still going to put it out...but it would be nice if it were the size of a book and not a pamphlet hahaha :D Anyway, that's all. I'm gonna hit the hay.
Sunday, December 9, 2012
Some People are Better Left in Public
Mr. T had asked me a few days back (as a part of a psychological analysis) if I had ever had sex in public. I had told him no, because I was thinking he meant in the open, which I have never done. Then a few days later I thought about it and realized that he might have just meant in public, in general. So I changed my answer. It got me to thinking about how with some people, it's better not to bring them home. It's better to just keep it in public: In the basement of their job, in the closet at a party, behind a building, in da club...?....Ummm, maybe not. Sorry Usher. Anyway, the reason why I say this is because public sex is almost always going to be like this:
Where as when you take them home...
you don't know if you are going to get this....
Or This....
Guess which one I got? LOL Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with sweating during sex, if we are BOTH doing something Sweat Worthy...but some guys (and maybe even some girls, I'm not sure) just POUR on you and they aren't even really doing anything. It's not like I had the guy doing back flips and carrying me all around the room. And it's not like we were in this situation either:
LOL you might laugh but the fact is people pay for this. But my point is, it's not like we were in this position (no pun intended LOL) We were in a situation where I was a thick little munchkin and he was a 6'3" Giant of a man...
Total basket ball player type. Keep in mind, he had just hoisted my thick ass up in the closet of a friend's party and was doing just fine, and yet I take him home and he's missionary and sweating all over me. LOL Like I said, sometimes it's better to keep people in public. That was obviously the last time I slept with him. He was cute and really nice though. Sexy Mr. B. That was a great experience (the sex in the closet at the party part, not the sweaty missionary part). I'm glad I did it.
Frank Ocean Making the Panties Drop
Saturday, December 8, 2012
Something Like a Wife (Foodie Book 1)
Crystal is a free spirited artist who was working a 9-5 job as a secretary, to save up for her dream of owning her own art gallery. Her new boss was a jerk so she was forced to quit, but she needed money and a part time job on the weekends as a server was not going to cut it. Phone sex seemed like the perfect opportunity. It was nowhere as lucrative as she had imagined but money is money and every little bit helped. One day she got a call from a sexy sounding man named Jaden Michaels, who has an interesting fetish for food. He likes talking with her so he decides to make her a very risky proposal. Will she give into his tasty desires?
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Bound for Life-Censored
BOUND FOR LIFE (CENSORED)
Giovanni is a loner. He has lost the most influential person in his life, his father. All that remain are his mother and his one friend, Mark, who both live out of town. He has been living life, almost as a zombie, working a job that he hates and living life only to study human behavior, until he meets Alana, who he comes to find out, has serious depression issues. He decides to take her through a journey of self-discovery by way of meditation, self-reflection and sexuality, showing her that life truly is worth living, when you are with the right person. This is the CENSORED version. It has the same content as the Uncensored but with a milder scene. This book contains soft-core BDSM.
NOTE: This link will take you to the
CENSORED version of the book.
Giovanni is a loner. He has lost the most influential person in his life, his father. All that remain are his mother and his one friend, Mark, who both live out of town. He has been living life, almost as a zombie, working a job that he hates and living life only to study human behavior, until he meets Alana, who he comes to find out, has serious depression issues. He decides to take her through a journey of self-discovery by way of meditation, self-reflection and sexuality, showing her that life truly is worth living, when you are with the right person. This is the CENSORED version. It has the same content as the Uncensored but with a milder scene. This book contains soft-core BDSM.
NOTE: This link will take you to the
CENSORED version of the book.
Bound for Life- Uncensored
BOUND FOR LIFE (UN-CENSORED)
Giovanni is a loner. He has lost the most influential person in his life, his father. All that remain are his mother and his one friend, Mark, who both live out of town. He has been living life, almost as a zombie, working a job that he hates and living life only to study human behavior, until he meets Alana, who he comes to find out, has serious depression issues. He decides to take her through a journey of self-discovery by way of meditation, self-reflection and sexuality, showing her that life truly is worth living, when you are with the right person. This is the UNCENSORED version so please do not read if you are sensitive to violent threats/innuendos. There is a censored version that you can read that will have the same content with a milder scene. This book contains soft-core BDSM.
WARNING: This is the Un-Censored version of the book. This version contains a somewhat violent scene that the censored version does not.
Master Yao Responded to My Question!
I am so excited! Master Yao actually made time to answer my question. Here is what I asked and here is what he said.
Me:
If you don't mind, I had a quick question. Someone called in on the 12th show (when you were talking about whether women prefer clitoral stimulation or vaginal stimulation) and one of the callers had said that the position of the man being on top (or missionary position) was not in the original tantra positions. I wanted to know if to your knowledge that is true and if so what do you think about it?
If you have time and would like to answer that would be great. Thank you again for all of what you are teaching. I have been applying what I can. :)
Master Yao:
I am sorry. I did not see this mail. It was piggy back on previous and hidden on my browser.
Concerning missionary position. Well, if you are having sex in any position you are doing good. I will not say any position is bad. It appears that the positions as given were designed to address a concern. Some other positions are how they are, because of the way the human energy body is designed. The chakras and meridians and energy motion is what it is. The man seated, and the female mounted on his phallus, in lotus, is designed to take advantage of the "energy orbit". It is for maximum flow, max intimacy, max share. Almost you become one. But it is uncomfortable for some. You must be young, strong and flexible to hold it. It is not a good or bad form, it is specific. The man above and the woman below is not good or bad. It requires the female submit her energy, and the male to be assertive. It is similar to when the woman is tied up. If you are not a receptive woman this is not for you. No blame. If you can get in that energy, the man does all the work and movement. The woman retreats into herself, and soaks up his strokes and his energy. She can have orgasm after orgasm this way. But the man has to be conservative in motion, and dynamic in energy projection. The vagina is not designed that way. Most men are so focused on just getting into bed, the position is not relevant Most women are in their head during sex. The position will not help them. Men and women are focused on everything except the pleasure of the other. THE FORM MUST FIT THE FUNCTION. That is the rule. Please.... find a man, and f-- his brains out, in every position. Enjoy it. Then gradually work into positions. If you are a controlling yang type woman, practice the submissive postures for expanded pleasure. If you are the passive type, get on top and feel empowered and dominant. Great Good fortune.
Master Yao
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Damn! That is one sexy ass Man! Let me tell you! So this sentence near the end here is exactly why I asked the question:
"If you are the passive type, get on top and feel empowered and dominant."-Master Yao
When I heard that person say that the missionary position was not an original position in Tantra, it immediately struck in my mind, that if this was true, that would mean that sex is hugely about, not only a man and a woman bonding, but a woman's power. Then another person came on a different show (a woman), and said the same thing, she said, "The woman is supposed to mount her king".
I mean there you have it. That was awesome! Think about it. Your man is out all day, bring home the bacon, (not to say that you aren't too, this is just an example based on the ancient ways), and then to relax, he lies down and submits to YOUR sexual power as a woman...and Yes, you are serving him, but he is in a SUBMISSIVE position. :D And how vulnerable are you? Up there, on top of him, fully exposed and visible in all of your imperfect perfection, and yet still, so strong, powerful and yes...just like he said, "Dominant"! While still being a delicate flower...while still being feminine. (No disrespect to the women who work more with the aggressive style of yang energy.) Being in that position takes confidence, skill and trust.
Don't get me wrong...Ain't nuttin wrong wit some missionary! Nevertheless, I found that fascinating! Especially since I have been somewhat intimidated by that position, for various reasons, all psychological bullshit. Point is, I need to get over that and as he said, "If you are the passive type, get on top and feel empowered and dominant," which I am...I am passive and I am learning to be more ASSERTIVE. This is one of the reasons I am doing this blog and being so open in it. Anyway, that's all for now. I gotta get some reading done and read some other blogs. Peace.
"If you are the passive type, get on top and feel empowered and dominant."-Master Yao
When I heard that person say that the missionary position was not an original position in Tantra, it immediately struck in my mind, that if this was true, that would mean that sex is hugely about, not only a man and a woman bonding, but a woman's power. Then another person came on a different show (a woman), and said the same thing, she said, "The woman is supposed to mount her king".
I mean there you have it. That was awesome! Think about it. Your man is out all day, bring home the bacon, (not to say that you aren't too, this is just an example based on the ancient ways), and then to relax, he lies down and submits to YOUR sexual power as a woman...and Yes, you are serving him, but he is in a SUBMISSIVE position. :D And how vulnerable are you? Up there, on top of him, fully exposed and visible in all of your imperfect perfection, and yet still, so strong, powerful and yes...just like he said, "Dominant"! While still being a delicate flower...while still being feminine. (No disrespect to the women who work more with the aggressive style of yang energy.) Being in that position takes confidence, skill and trust.
Don't get me wrong...Ain't nuttin wrong wit some missionary! Nevertheless, I found that fascinating! Especially since I have been somewhat intimidated by that position, for various reasons, all psychological bullshit. Point is, I need to get over that and as he said, "If you are the passive type, get on top and feel empowered and dominant," which I am...I am passive and I am learning to be more ASSERTIVE. This is one of the reasons I am doing this blog and being so open in it. Anyway, that's all for now. I gotta get some reading done and read some other blogs. Peace.
Ejaculation of the Pen and Death Threats
Skeet, Skeet, Skeet anyone?
That's right. You all know that I have talked about healing past wounds through self pleasure. Well, last night, Mr. T, my "You're that sexy kind of weird", friend, said that I need to consider "ejaculation of the pen". I had gotten a little tipsy last night and I revealed to him, something that I will be revealing in my book, and that is that my ex, in a drunken fit, jovially and with that psychotic type of laugh, threatened to kill me. Up until last night, I had only revealed to two people that my ex husband threatened my life (that I remember) but I know for sure, that I only told one person the details of it; a certain Mr. P. So, why did I reveal this to him in particular? For one reason and one reason alone (aside from obvious formalities), he's white.
Back-story! Don't you just love it? So, in the duration of my marriage, I had two people on two separate occasions, caution me to beware of my actions/words around my ex husband because I might end up murdered and chopped up somewhere. I'm not saying that they wouldn't have said it if he weren't white, but I am saying that I have dated a few black guys and I have never gotten a warning like that with them. Now to be fair to person A who gave me the warning, that was the longest relationship I had ever been in, and to be fair to person B who warned me, they didn't know me prior to that relationship...but I'm pretty confident that it had, more than a little bit, to do with the fact that he was white.
So what happened? I got offended, naturally, because, of the following reasons: How you gonna talk like that about my guy? Why would you put a thought like that in my head about my man? So, you could imagine my appall when my husband actually said it to me. Not something similar. He said exactly that. Well technically, it was posed as a question, a drunken, hysterical question.
To the present. So I asked Mr. T what his thoughts on this were, because I wanted him to validate or invalidate this stereotype, for the sake of analysis. But even as I write that, to be honest, I don't think that's why I really asked him. I think the spirit moved me to ask him because I had not really gotten over it. Let me tell you something...that is what you call, "Traumatizing", and I didn't realize that I had been traumatized about this until last night. Let's be clear, I'm not talking about the trauma of the entire relationship, I'm talking about the trauma of this specif thing.
There is a monologue in the movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, where Frances (played by Diane Lane), said, "Do you know what the most surprising thing about divorce is? It doesn't actually kill you...like a bullet to the heart or a head on car wreck. It should. When someone you've promised to cherish til death do you part says, 'I never loved you,' I mean...it should kill you instantly. You shouldn't have to wake up day after day, after that, trying to understand how in the world you didn't know".
This is exactly how I felt. I had to wake up day after day, knowing that the man I loved, the man that I married, had threatened to kill me...and not just kill me, but chop me up into little pieces. That's some traumatizing shit. Did I think that he was going to do it? Not really. Was I worried about it possibly happening, unconsciously, in a drunken fit, sometime in the future? Yes. Do I still worry about it? Yes. Sometimes I am nervous to blog how I really feel and what really happened because of it, but I can't live in fear like that.
It's one thing to come to terms with the fact that you've been abused by the person you love; it's another thing to come to terms with a threat, or action, of even greater violence against you. I am very blessed, there are women that have gone through that Tina Turner type of abuse, so, thank goodness mine was mild in comparison...but it was traumatizing nevertheless.
He couldn't even remember the next day. He said that I had made it up. He didn't even apologize, naturally...how could I expect for him to apologize for something that he didn't even remember doing? I can't tell you how much I thank God and myself, that I got out of that situation alive and well. My heart aches right now, writing this, but I know I am definitely not the only one going through this and maybe you all need to hear this and learn and heal with me or maybe even get out of a situation that you are presently in.
I think the spirit moved me to talk to him so that he could help me to realize that I needed to deal with this specific issue head on and deal with it in the manner in which he prescribed, which he so wittily called, "Ejaculation of the Pen", in response to what we had discussed about masturbatory healing. So I am going to do it. I am going to do it today. Not in my diary though...I don't want to pervert it with that particular part of my past.
P.S.
I've changed my mind...I am going to write it in my diary..That's what the diary ultimately is for...So fine. It's settled.
P.P.S
Done! And I feel better already! I even made a fucking decision about posting my blog on my FB page...I did it. I am not going to let him or anyone or anything else hold me back from my goals!
Back-story! Don't you just love it? So, in the duration of my marriage, I had two people on two separate occasions, caution me to beware of my actions/words around my ex husband because I might end up murdered and chopped up somewhere. I'm not saying that they wouldn't have said it if he weren't white, but I am saying that I have dated a few black guys and I have never gotten a warning like that with them. Now to be fair to person A who gave me the warning, that was the longest relationship I had ever been in, and to be fair to person B who warned me, they didn't know me prior to that relationship...but I'm pretty confident that it had, more than a little bit, to do with the fact that he was white.
So what happened? I got offended, naturally, because, of the following reasons: How you gonna talk like that about my guy? Why would you put a thought like that in my head about my man? So, you could imagine my appall when my husband actually said it to me. Not something similar. He said exactly that. Well technically, it was posed as a question, a drunken, hysterical question.
To the present. So I asked Mr. T what his thoughts on this were, because I wanted him to validate or invalidate this stereotype, for the sake of analysis. But even as I write that, to be honest, I don't think that's why I really asked him. I think the spirit moved me to ask him because I had not really gotten over it. Let me tell you something...that is what you call, "Traumatizing", and I didn't realize that I had been traumatized about this until last night. Let's be clear, I'm not talking about the trauma of the entire relationship, I'm talking about the trauma of this specif thing.
There is a monologue in the movie, Under the Tuscan Sun, where Frances (played by Diane Lane), said, "Do you know what the most surprising thing about divorce is? It doesn't actually kill you...like a bullet to the heart or a head on car wreck. It should. When someone you've promised to cherish til death do you part says, 'I never loved you,' I mean...it should kill you instantly. You shouldn't have to wake up day after day, after that, trying to understand how in the world you didn't know".
This is exactly how I felt. I had to wake up day after day, knowing that the man I loved, the man that I married, had threatened to kill me...and not just kill me, but chop me up into little pieces. That's some traumatizing shit. Did I think that he was going to do it? Not really. Was I worried about it possibly happening, unconsciously, in a drunken fit, sometime in the future? Yes. Do I still worry about it? Yes. Sometimes I am nervous to blog how I really feel and what really happened because of it, but I can't live in fear like that.
It's one thing to come to terms with the fact that you've been abused by the person you love; it's another thing to come to terms with a threat, or action, of even greater violence against you. I am very blessed, there are women that have gone through that Tina Turner type of abuse, so, thank goodness mine was mild in comparison...but it was traumatizing nevertheless.
He couldn't even remember the next day. He said that I had made it up. He didn't even apologize, naturally...how could I expect for him to apologize for something that he didn't even remember doing? I can't tell you how much I thank God and myself, that I got out of that situation alive and well. My heart aches right now, writing this, but I know I am definitely not the only one going through this and maybe you all need to hear this and learn and heal with me or maybe even get out of a situation that you are presently in.
I think the spirit moved me to talk to him so that he could help me to realize that I needed to deal with this specific issue head on and deal with it in the manner in which he prescribed, which he so wittily called, "Ejaculation of the Pen", in response to what we had discussed about masturbatory healing. So I am going to do it. I am going to do it today. Not in my diary though...I don't want to pervert it with that particular part of my past.
P.S.
I've changed my mind...I am going to write it in my diary..That's what the diary ultimately is for...So fine. It's settled.
P.P.S
Done! And I feel better already! I even made a fucking decision about posting my blog on my FB page...I did it. I am not going to let him or anyone or anything else hold me back from my goals!
Friday, December 7, 2012
That Sexy Kind of Weird- Meeting Mr. T
"Ok, you're that sexy kind of weird! We just gotta be
friends!"...is the message I got from some random person on Facebook that decided to send me a friend request. For those of you who don't know, I am not one of those "Gotta Catch Em All" Facebook people. I am, typically, very selective about who I add and I will delete people in a flash, even so called "Friends". What is the first thing I think anytime anyone sends me a friend request? The following: Who the hell is this and why are they sending me a friend request? Did they see my picture or something? Did facebook suggest me? Do we have mutual friends? That last question is the first thing I look for.
The whole while I am trying to answer these questions, I am perusing their page to see what they are about. Are they spammers? Are they weirdos....I perused the hell out of this guys page and all I saw was funny after funny...I looked to see what we had in common and there was only one thing...a Web Series. I thought to myself, "Maybe that's it..." I decided, what they hey...he couldn't be too bad if his page was this funny. Turns out he's a really cool dude. His name is Mr. T. Why am I bringing him up tonight? Because he proved something to me today. Tantra energy works.
He said something to me that really made me realize that I am growing in exactly the direction that I want to grow in; and it was so simple and if taken out of context, it could be considered very rude, but rest assured, he was quite the gentleman about it. After having been talking for a few days, possibly a couple of weeks, he said to me, and I quote, "Ok. This might be out of line, but I would love to have sex with you..I think you could really help me open myself". Now we talked and I had him elaborate, and so I know what he was getting at. Let me tell you why this stood out to me.
But before I go in...I just want to mention that I am sipping on some Sutter Home Wine and the reason why I am bringing that up is because...ok, this is about to be a digression...They raised the price of my cheap wine by a dollar...which then put it in the same price range as some of the other wines and I said, well, fuck it...I am going to try a new wine. So I saw that Sutter Home was priced at about $5 and I saw that they had a ZINFANDEL (2010)!
So anyway, the reason it stood out to me is because of this. A while back, while talking with Master Yao, Coach Khayr had mentioned that he doesn't need to talk to people about what he does, you know, outside of regular conversation leading to it. People just be rolling up on him, in certain places, unsolicited, and start talking about what they do and what they practice...He said that he doesn't do that, but he feels that it's happening because they feel HIS energy...This is what this guy revealed to me.
I did not tell him that I was a healer. And yet, he picked it up. Why did he want to have sex with me? Not because I am a sexy bitch. Not because I am really nice and seem kind of kinky...No. Because, 'I could really help him to open up'. Let me translate this for the noobs:
"I want to have sex with you because I feel you could heal me and make it so that I could have better and more open hearted relationships with women in my future."
That's some powerful shit and that is EXACTLY what Master Yao has been preaching that we need to do. Heal each other through sexual energy, physically when possible. We all want to be loved, and a lot of us fuck people up, but how many people are taking the opportunity to heal and not expect to be compensated in return?
Here's what I mean. A lot of times people get into relationships because of what THEY want. I want, I want, I want, I want... They don't get into relationships for the purpose of healing someone that needs help. They don't get into the relationship with the intent to uplift someone. They don't get into the relationship unless they are pretty sure that it is going to last and be for THEM. They get into the relationship to TAKE, and not experience.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to find the right man/woman (from now on, I am going to speak from a woman's perspective, but it applies to you men out there). But there is also nothing wrong with having a relationship with the purpose of helping someone get on their feet. Helping someone be a better person. Helping someone be better for THE NEXT PERSON. It doesn't always have to be, "Well, if I can't have him then I ain't going to make him better for the next person. Well, if I can't have him, then I am going to fuck him up for the next person..." But this is what we so often do.
I say, enter into the relationship. Go with the flow and just be the type of person that inspires. Be the type of person that heals, so that healing just happens. You don't have to make people feel like a low down piece of shit, just because it didn't work out with you two. It's ok ladies, to help a man get on his feet financially and teach him some skills sexually. I'm not saying get used...I'm saying, uplift. Date him for fun, not necessarily for marriage. You can, and marriage might happen...but you can also, in the words of Musiq Soulchild, "Hook up, hang out, just chill".
You can still be committed, I'm not saying be frivolous...I'm saying, sometimes just let it be an experience. An experience where by the end, you have left a good taste in the mouth of the person you were with, even if they were not the one for you. (I'm talking to you men as well...cause y'all be fucking bitches up. But men are more expected to handle things financially...I am talking about both sexes doing both things). Just...SHIT...Just Be A Goddam Human Being to another Human Being. It doesn't always have to be about competition and what you gonna get out of a person in the long run.
I'm not saying get used...but think about it like this, when you help someone advance in their career, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you teach someone a sexual trick, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you help someone start their small business, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you help that girl pay off their old bills, are you allowing them to negatively use you? No. You are being a good Partner. If they are leeches, then cut them lose...but if they just need a little healing or a little OPPORTUNITY to develop, grow, become fucking awesome!... then facilitate that. And guess what, it comes back to you, because you are creating a new paradigm. This can be done without having sex or with having sex.
I have some ideas of how I am going to do my best to work something out for this friend of mine (which will be between him and I), but I will be doing it in a way that does not require us to have physical sex, cause I don't know him like that hahaha But I do want to help him out and improve upon my healing skills.
Now I don't want to be deceiving to you all, he does have an idea of my spiritual views and the kind of stuff that I am into, but I have been quite vague with him and I never outright came out and told him that I was a healer (at least that I can remember)...he picked that shit up. That is the power of Tantra, and let me tell you something else...this isn't just any old leech of a person. He has done nothing but inspire me to do better things with my goals since I started talking with him, including adding this section to my blog. Originally, I only had the author blog and not a personal "sex-capade" one. Also, I did not have a bibliography and he inspired that as well. And he is going to share the knowledge that he has about earning a living from your blog, with me as well.
So I didn't just attract someone to me, I definitely didn't attract an energy vampire to me... I attracted someone that I can help and that can help me. This is real power. This is real success. This is what I strive to do and one day, be able to formally teach, because I would be a bad ass motivational speaker. It ain't bragging if it's true LOL :D Anyway, that's about all for now. I'm sure I'll be blogging later because I am about to open up that sultry little "Master of the Universe" pdf.
Peace Bitches!
P.S.
As a side note, "Sexy kind of weird" is exactly right when it comes to describing me.
The whole while I am trying to answer these questions, I am perusing their page to see what they are about. Are they spammers? Are they weirdos....I perused the hell out of this guys page and all I saw was funny after funny...I looked to see what we had in common and there was only one thing...a Web Series. I thought to myself, "Maybe that's it..." I decided, what they hey...he couldn't be too bad if his page was this funny. Turns out he's a really cool dude. His name is Mr. T. Why am I bringing him up tonight? Because he proved something to me today. Tantra energy works.
He said something to me that really made me realize that I am growing in exactly the direction that I want to grow in; and it was so simple and if taken out of context, it could be considered very rude, but rest assured, he was quite the gentleman about it. After having been talking for a few days, possibly a couple of weeks, he said to me, and I quote, "Ok. This might be out of line, but I would love to have sex with you..I think you could really help me open myself". Now we talked and I had him elaborate, and so I know what he was getting at. Let me tell you why this stood out to me.
But before I go in...I just want to mention that I am sipping on some Sutter Home Wine and the reason why I am bringing that up is because...ok, this is about to be a digression...They raised the price of my cheap wine by a dollar...which then put it in the same price range as some of the other wines and I said, well, fuck it...I am going to try a new wine. So I saw that Sutter Home was priced at about $5 and I saw that they had a ZINFANDEL (2010)!
Up until just now, I have not tried a regular Zinfandel...I have had plenty of white (and let me tell you, when dealing with White Zinfandel, the cheaper it is, the worse it tastes...Buy the good stuff with White Zin)...so anyway, I am sippin on this bad boy right now and it's hot to trot. I'm feeling that Tantra Life...Ok...Back to the story...
So anyway, the reason it stood out to me is because of this. A while back, while talking with Master Yao, Coach Khayr had mentioned that he doesn't need to talk to people about what he does, you know, outside of regular conversation leading to it. People just be rolling up on him, in certain places, unsolicited, and start talking about what they do and what they practice...He said that he doesn't do that, but he feels that it's happening because they feel HIS energy...This is what this guy revealed to me.
I did not tell him that I was a healer. And yet, he picked it up. Why did he want to have sex with me? Not because I am a sexy bitch. Not because I am really nice and seem kind of kinky...No. Because, 'I could really help him to open up'. Let me translate this for the noobs:
"I want to have sex with you because I feel you could heal me and make it so that I could have better and more open hearted relationships with women in my future."
That's some powerful shit and that is EXACTLY what Master Yao has been preaching that we need to do. Heal each other through sexual energy, physically when possible. We all want to be loved, and a lot of us fuck people up, but how many people are taking the opportunity to heal and not expect to be compensated in return?
Here's what I mean. A lot of times people get into relationships because of what THEY want. I want, I want, I want, I want... They don't get into relationships for the purpose of healing someone that needs help. They don't get into the relationship with the intent to uplift someone. They don't get into the relationship unless they are pretty sure that it is going to last and be for THEM. They get into the relationship to TAKE, and not experience.
There is nothing wrong with wanting to find the right man/woman (from now on, I am going to speak from a woman's perspective, but it applies to you men out there). But there is also nothing wrong with having a relationship with the purpose of helping someone get on their feet. Helping someone be a better person. Helping someone be better for THE NEXT PERSON. It doesn't always have to be, "Well, if I can't have him then I ain't going to make him better for the next person. Well, if I can't have him, then I am going to fuck him up for the next person..." But this is what we so often do.
I say, enter into the relationship. Go with the flow and just be the type of person that inspires. Be the type of person that heals, so that healing just happens. You don't have to make people feel like a low down piece of shit, just because it didn't work out with you two. It's ok ladies, to help a man get on his feet financially and teach him some skills sexually. I'm not saying get used...I'm saying, uplift. Date him for fun, not necessarily for marriage. You can, and marriage might happen...but you can also, in the words of Musiq Soulchild, "Hook up, hang out, just chill".
Well....Just friends....with benefits...Y'all need to vibe off of this hot joint ri'chere! (right here).
You can still be committed, I'm not saying be frivolous...I'm saying, sometimes just let it be an experience. An experience where by the end, you have left a good taste in the mouth of the person you were with, even if they were not the one for you. (I'm talking to you men as well...cause y'all be fucking bitches up. But men are more expected to handle things financially...I am talking about both sexes doing both things). Just...SHIT...Just Be A Goddam Human Being to another Human Being. It doesn't always have to be about competition and what you gonna get out of a person in the long run.
I'm not saying get used...but think about it like this, when you help someone advance in their career, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you teach someone a sexual trick, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you help someone start their small business, are you allowing them to negatively use you? When you help that girl pay off their old bills, are you allowing them to negatively use you? No. You are being a good Partner. If they are leeches, then cut them lose...but if they just need a little healing or a little OPPORTUNITY to develop, grow, become fucking awesome!... then facilitate that. And guess what, it comes back to you, because you are creating a new paradigm. This can be done without having sex or with having sex.
I have some ideas of how I am going to do my best to work something out for this friend of mine (which will be between him and I), but I will be doing it in a way that does not require us to have physical sex, cause I don't know him like that hahaha But I do want to help him out and improve upon my healing skills.
Now I don't want to be deceiving to you all, he does have an idea of my spiritual views and the kind of stuff that I am into, but I have been quite vague with him and I never outright came out and told him that I was a healer (at least that I can remember)...he picked that shit up. That is the power of Tantra, and let me tell you something else...this isn't just any old leech of a person. He has done nothing but inspire me to do better things with my goals since I started talking with him, including adding this section to my blog. Originally, I only had the author blog and not a personal "sex-capade" one. Also, I did not have a bibliography and he inspired that as well. And he is going to share the knowledge that he has about earning a living from your blog, with me as well.
So I didn't just attract someone to me, I definitely didn't attract an energy vampire to me... I attracted someone that I can help and that can help me. This is real power. This is real success. This is what I strive to do and one day, be able to formally teach, because I would be a bad ass motivational speaker. It ain't bragging if it's true LOL :D Anyway, that's about all for now. I'm sure I'll be blogging later because I am about to open up that sultry little "Master of the Universe" pdf.
Peace Bitches!
P.S.
As a side note, "Sexy kind of weird" is exactly right when it comes to describing me.
Even Birds Get Sexually Frustrated
My cockatiel is going through hormones right now. I can't be mad at him. You know why? Because this is the first time in over a year that he has gone through this. The other day he bit me when I went to get him to take him out of the cage, not hard enough to pierce the skin but hard enough to leave a red mark and definitely make me nervous and hurt my feelings. There is no question. I am giving him away. He is a very sweet bird and I love him, but he is very loud, compared to my other three birds and when he gets hormonal, that's it. He's fighting everyone in the cage, he's attacking the smaller birds, he's screaming all day-non stop- as loud as possible, he is biting and attacking...Just doesn't work for me or the other birds. I'm actually glad I got him, because he made me realize that I do not want big birds and I definitely don't want any more birds until I get a house in a warm climate and I can keep them outside, so they can scream as loud as they want. And I DEFINITELY don't want any big birds...I'm going to keep it no bigger than the Indian Ringneck.
BIG
See?....now he's quiet...now that I've given up on taking my nap.
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